By Brenda L. Storey, Esq.
As 2017 comes to a close, and 2018 is just around the corner, it is a time for new beginnings. With the right perspective, a divorce can be seen like a new year. It is a chance to look back at what has been accomplished, where improvement can be made, and to count blessings, and then look forward.
Do not shortchange yourself with looking back. Allow yourself to see the good you did and what you enjoyed. Too often, we only see the bad, or what we could have done better. Every single relationship has successes, and those should be remembered. Also, give any feelings of loss the respect they deserve. Each of us grieves in a different way, but grieve you must. It is not healthy to push these feelings down.
The best way to move on successfully is to not repeat the same mistakes. So, identify where improvement is needed. Make a list of on what you wish to focus, what steps are needed, and a time-frame for each. Too much all at once will never be completed.
Then, focus on new beginnings—fresh starts. Will you move? Will you change jobs? Will you date? Will you create new traditions? You have the opportunity to start fresh and pursue what you want. Your goals can be limitless. Some goals will be short term, some will take a lifetime. But, see this change as an opportunity and take advantage of it!