Attention… That’s What Children Need

Simone Weil wrote “Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.”    And that is exactly what children need, especially children whose parents are divorcing – attention.   It is such a simple thing to give, yet obligations of life seem to get in the way.   Attention, though, is about…

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Life is Short…But Don’t Have an Affair

  With the Ashley Madison hacking, and then publication of email addresses of its users, talk has turned to extramarital affairs.  The focus is on the website, and discussion of what it promotes, as well as whisperings and sensationalism as to those who have used the service. What is being…

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The F- Word

Yes, I am writing about THE F-Word. When in our society did common use of this word become acceptable? At the opening day of the Rockies, a man seated in the row in front of my family used the word in almost every sentence he spoke, and as an adjective,…

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Expressing Gratitude

  Gratitude.   Mother’s Day is an opportunity to tell mom how much she is appreciated.   Although it can include pampering her with breakfast in bed or giving her a thoughtful gift, it is the expressed gratitude that seems to mean the most to moms.    If you poll mothers, they…

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Don’t Jump Too Soon

  I recently read the book “This is Where I Leave You.” It is a story of dysfunction at so many levels, mixed with shock value, touching moments, and absolute hilarity. One line, though, really resonated with me.   The main character is recently separated, having caught his wife in…

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Disconnect to Reconnect

Disconnect to Reconnect I recently went on a week-long family vacation. My two children, 12 and 15, have the latest and greatest smart phones. My husband and I have personal and work email accounts signed into our phones. Technology at the fingertips, and distractions every chime. So, we committed to…

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Oxygen Mask – Assist yourself first in Divorce

    We are all familiar with the in-flight safety demonstration, wherein the flight attendant instructs that in the case of emergency, passengers traveling with small children should first secure their own oxygen mask, and then assist their children.   This is, by analogy, true at the inception of the divorce…

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Timing for Divorce

Timing….   In a recent episode of “Girlfriends’ Guide to Divorce,” the main character, a writer, penned an article Why Aren’t You Divorced Yet?   It prompted me to think through all the potential clients with whom I have met over my twenty plus years as a divorce lawyer.   Not one…

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