Co-Parenting Communication after Divorce Tips – The Basics of Email

The Basics of Email

From: Co-Parenting Communication Guide by Arizona Court System

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Co-Parenting Communication : Tips for E-mail

Co-Parenting Communication : Tips for  Basic E-mail

Some guidelines on how to have efficient e-mail communication during an emotional divorce.

Composing an Email –

Keep Email short and clear. If you have more than one issue to cover, number each issue.

When the other party answers this e-mail, he/she should refer to each item by number.

The e-mail should BE BRIEF and limited in number (preferably one per day) unless there is an emergency situation.

  • Email should relate to present and future activities only
  • Email should not rehash or make judgments about past events
  • Email should not blame or criticize the other party for past events
  • An Email should be limited to exchanging parenting information or information regarding the case. Financial matters should be handled in a separate email from parenting discussions.

Sending Email –

Use specific subject lines for all emails. (Examples: “Melissa’s dance recital” or “Tax Return check came in”).

Using specific subject line will make finding a certain email quick and easy.

Parties should provide each other only one email address to use for all communication.

This email address should be one that a party has easy access to and will check regularly.

Step-parents or significant others should not be involved in email communication between the parties unless both parties agree or give permission.

Parties outside of the case should not send e-mails or be copied on e-mails.

An e-mail should not be sent from another parties e-mail address.

A step-parent or significant other should not appear in the CC section of the e-mail.

If you wish to blind-copy your spouse or significant other on an e-mail to your co-parent,  that is to be kept between you and the outside party.

Receiving Email –

Sometimes an email requires the co-party to reply.

In general, a party should reply within 24 hours, even if the reply is just to say that the e-mail and information was received.



* Limit e-mail to one topic       

 * Respond to e-mail in a timely manner (24 hours of when it was sent)

* Keep e-mail brief (one paragraph)     

* Keep the email focused on the issue at hand/the child

 * Keep information in the email focused on sharing information about past and future events

* Use respectful language            

*Each party should send no more than 2 emails  unless an emergency

* Email should be sent between the two parties only and no outside parties

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