New Year’s Resolutions

New Year’s Resolutions

 

It’s that time of year again.  We vow to work out more, lose weight, and attain many other be-greater-than-last-year goals.    But, this past weekend, I had an epiphany during a lecture I was attending.   We all spend so much time thinking about what we need to do to improve, that we do not stop to realize our current worthiness and strengths.   That shortchanges us!

This is similar to the emotional roller coaster that is the divorce process.  A party going through a divorce can become focused on what they need to do “right” next time, how they can improve and be better going forward.  This all gives a sense that who and what they are currently is somehow wrong or less than worthy.   This kind of thinking can destroy a person’s self-esteem, and can become an all-consuming depressor.   During these times, it is good to take an inventory of what is good in one’s life.    In my 22 years of practicing family law, I have yet to have a client who cannot find silver linings.    Then, looking forward, the focus is more healthy and balanced.

My new year’s resolution is to appreciate all that I have, all that I am already, all of my blessings.   That is my wish for each of you as well.  Life is good, if you stop and think about the good things.

 

 

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