President Obama last week made the statement that “We should reform our child support laws to get more men working and engaged with their children.”
Although he did not further elaborate, it is true that the system is not perfect. Many states base the child support number on overnights spent with each parent. It makes sense, in that if a parent has more overnights with a child, their own expenses increase and the expenses of the other parent decrease, such as for groceries of the child. The rub, though, is that it can seem that parents are fighting for more time with the child and/or less time between the other parent and child, so as to manipulate the resulting child support.
The reality is that it is usually cheaper to pay child support than it is for the parent with whom the child resides a majority of the time to pay the actual expenses for the child. Children are expensive. Whether receiving support or paying it, each parent has expenses related to the child and there should be no resentment over that.