By Brenda L. Storey, Esq.
In a hearing last week, I was reminded that no matter how skilled the lawyer, we cannot change the facts that our clients bring to us. It is true that all people have slight transgressions now and then, and when they are rare in number can he explained away or given a “pass.” However, more regular instances of poor judgment become even harder to overcome. Worse, actual patterns and histories of bad decisions can actually change the outcome of a case. More importantly, children are impacted and not just by the ruling, but by the underlying decisions, transgressions and behavior.
This actually is not a tall order. In basic terms:
This all really should come naturally to a parent, but if it does not, help is available. There are excellent parent coaches and therapists that can work one-on-one with a parent to explore what causes resistance to these basic principles. The benefit is many fold – the parent looks good in the eyes of the Court, the parent has a great chance at a good relationship with the child, and all of this leads to a happy life for the parent. Now THAT is a life of which one can be proud!